Donald’s story

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"When we learned that Charlotte was losing the battle against her cancer, we both felt strongly that she should be able to die in the home we had shared for more than 40 years."
Smiling woman sat at table

“She had ‘done her time’ in hospitals, and much preferred the idea of spending her last days in a familiar, tranquil setting. A place she loved.”

“So, last Christmas, we became the fortunate beneficiaries of St Clare Hospice’s Hospice at Home service; which I cannot praise highly enough because it enabled Charlotte to live her final weeks with dignity and in comfort.”

“Charlotte didn’t ‘do’ illness. She didn’t want to be pitied or made a fuss of, and the Hospice at Home staff honoured her wishes. They dealt with both of us with the utmost respect at every step.”

“I would certainly have been unable to do such an impressive job of caring for Charlotte on my own. For one thing, I am in my 80s and was quite unable to lift her. But the nursing assistants made her bed with expert care and a minimum of fuss – in a matter of seconds, it seemed. Whenever things threatened to become difficult, the nursing assistants did all they could to remove the ‘rough edges’. I don’t know a better way of saying it than that.”

“In particular, I was especially impressed that the Hospice at Home team actually came on Christmas Day. Charlotte’s symptoms had become a lot worse, and so it was such a relief to know that even on 25th December the wonderful nursing assistants would come to the house and see to it that she was comfortable.”

“Charlotte left us two days later. She simply slipped away, our children and I by her side. Of course, I know that hospitals do amazing work, but at that terrible moment, I was thankful we were in our own home, rather than surrounded by noise and bustle on a ward.”

“My wife was a matchless woman, and is sorely missed by a great many people. I have been very lucky to have been supported by our wide circle of friends in the year since her passing and it has also been a great comfort to know that St Clare Hospice is there to help me too if there is anything I should need to discuss.”

“After all the care and hospitality Charlotte showed over the course of her life, it is quite fitting that she should have received such impeccable support in her final days. I have become a strong supporter of St Clare Hospice, as I believe that more people should be given the opportunity to die as she did; peacefully, in their own homes.”

– Donald

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