Rose’s story

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"I don’t know what I would have done without St Clare. The nurses, doctors, everyone - they were all so kind to us. Their experience meant they knew what to expect as Mervyn reached the end of his life."

“My beloved husband Mervyn was such a kind man – and his time in the Army as a mechanic meant he was also very tidy!

“When Mervyn was diagnosed with pulmonary lung disease, I tried my very best to care for him. However, soon his appetite vanished and he even stopped wanting his much-loved cup of tea.

“I felt under pressure to make everything okay 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So, when Mervyn was referred to St Clare I was able to feel like his wife again, not just his carer.

“Mervyn had been visited at home by the Hospice at Home nurses. They were so sensitive and kind, helping us to have emotional conversations about what he wanted for the future and where he wanted to be at the end.

“Mervyn only agreed to come into the Hospice if I could come with him and at St Clare that was never a problem. They told me I could spend as much time as I wanted with him. They made me tea and they looked after me too so well.

“Even though the Hospice is only 20 minutes away from our home in Loughton, I wanted to be by Mervyn’s side. The nurses understood and set up a bed for me in his room. They made sure I was able to be with him for as long as he had left.

“I don’t know what I would have done without St Clare. The nurses, doctors, everyone – they were all so kind to us. Their experience meant they knew what to expect as Mervyn reached the end of his life. That was invaluable to our family.

“Our experience would have been so much different if St Clare wasn’t there, holding our hand every step of the way. Between us, we have 30 grandchildren so it was always a busy house. Being in the hospice meant we could all be together, in the family room, and take it in turns to be with Mervyn. We all ate together, and we were even able to have a glass of wine with our meal if we wanted it.

“We were all together the day Mervyn died, just how he would have wanted it. With St Clare by our side from then on, we had all the support we needed.

“St Clare helps families spend precious time together when it matters the most – meaning they can be a family again, whilst the Hospice’s experienced team of doctors, nurses and healthcare assistants take care of everything else.”

Rose, Mervyn’s wife

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