Published on: Tuesday 31 May 2022 at 10:24
When you lose a loved one, feelings of jealousy can dominate your thoughts.
Feeling jealous about others having things you are missing is completely normal when you are grieving.
You might feel that your world has been ripped out from underneath you whilst others seem to be happily getting along with their own lives. You might become resentful of others who still have a relationship, whilst you are grieving yours.
These feelings don’t make you a bad person, but it can be hard to say it out loud without feeling judged.
Recognise that how you are feeling is normal. Will it ever end? Maybe not, but over time you will learn to live with the feelings of jealousy, without it taking a front seat.
The power of sharing how you feel with people who get it
Saying it aloud won’t fix anything, but it does make your feelings a little easier to carry knowing you are not alone in your thoughts. It is comforting to know that other people understand and can relate to how you feel.
Sometimes opening up to loved ones can feel quite daunting. You don’t want to burden them with your feelings or trigger their own grief. We can also feel worried about them judging us, especially if we feel they have moved on with how they feel about the loss of a shared loved one.
You don’t have to carry it alone
At GriefLine, we firmly believe that one of the best forms of bereavement support is simply being heard. Talking to others who understand something of what you are going through can help lighten the emotional weight of grief and remind you that whatever you’re feeling, you’re not alone.
If you’re finding your grief difficult to cope with, or you simply need someone to listen without judgement, we’re here for you. Call GriefLine on 01279 945089 at any time and one of our trained bereavement volunteers will return your call within 72 hours. They can offer a compassionate listening ear, connect you with other St Clare Hospice bereavement services, or signpost you to other organisations if additional support would be helpful.